“I have been through extreme emotional abuse and distress for many years now. I had seen many good therapists for years – and I still do. They help me validate my emotions and feelings – and offer suggestions on how to overcome negativity. It seems to help only during the time I am talking to my therapist. And after that, I find myself back in the same trauma cycle – or a cycle of worse intensity.

I had attended more than six months of DBT therapy, and countless CBT sessions over the years. However, I still found myself suffering intensely – both emotionally and mentally. I suffered for a prolonged period from severe cognitive dissonance – and after a while, I saw that I was not getting as far as I wanted to go with these conventional methods of treatment. I was hurting terribly inside. I also went through an intracranial stenting procedure to fix a brain aneurysm that was detected earlier this year. I attribute it to the intense emotional trauma. 

These patterns of emotional abuse seemed to be feeding off of something embedded inside me – and as hard as I tried, I could not determine what was making me put up with the emotionally abusive behavior. I even left my abuser – but now what? “How do I change my inner core?” 

I was terribly trauma bonded to my abuser. Not only was I trauma bonded to my abuser – but also trauma bonded to the pattern of being trauma bonded! Because, growing up, that was the only kind of “love” I had known. I was raised by a narcissistic grandmother and family.

I contacted Melissa to help me heal because there had to be a way out of this! Within a couple of months of working with her, I could take decisive action and file for legal separation. This has now been converted to a divorce – and I am totally good with that.

Melissa is an expert trauma extractor – and I have come to understand that this is what leads to healing. Without this intervention from Melissa, I can confidently claim that I would not have been able to make such positive strides in my emotional and mental health well-being.

What made me trust Melissa? Well, for one thing, she knows and understands this type of trauma and extreme suffering and she has overcome it! Trauma inflicted on us by Narcissists and Sociopaths are of a devious nature – in the sense that it keeps us tethered to the toxic cycle. And this toxic cycle can only be reprogrammed by extracting the trauma from our bodies.

I have become a firm believer of this concept even though it may seem unconventional. I am beyond looking at the conventionality of processes – especially after going through so much suffering and pain. Plus, I was praying to the Universe for a long time now to give me respite from my suffering. And I am not one to question the conventionality or unconventionality of treatment the Universe brings to me. I trust the Universe. And I am so glad I did. And I plan to stay in the program for a while.

-- Incredible Woman*  Systems Analysis Leader, Defense Finance and Accounting Service | Midwest